“Over It” Toxic Relationship with Self

In the realm of toxic relationships, we often focus on the dynamics between two people, but what about the relationship we have with ourselves? As we embrace “Over It October,” a dedicated month for shedding what no longer serves us, it’s imperative to recognize the need for some of us to bid farewell to the most personal, yet often overlooked, toxic connection of all – the one we have with ourselves.

This journey begins with self-awareness. It’s an exploration of the thoughts and beliefs we hold about ourselves, a journey of taking inventory of our inner dialogue. Toxic self-relationships thrive on self-deprecating words and beliefs, but it’s time to rewrite this narrative. Let’s switch from speaking down to ourselves to speaking positively and kindly to ourselves, just as we would to a cherished friend.

Boundaries play a pivotal role in this process, one that directly correlates with self-care. Establishing healthy boundaries with ourselves is paramount, offering the time and space to prioritize self-compassion. It’s a pact we make with ourselves to protect our mental and emotional well-being.

For those seeking guidance and support in dismantling the fortress of negative self-talk, therapy can be an invaluable resource. It’s a space where you can unearth the roots of these self-deprecating thoughts and cultivate a new garden of self-compassion.

Creating an environment of positivity is essential. Surrounding ourselves with affirming influences and practicing mindfulness helps us remain connected to our true needs and identity. Each step taken on this journey, no matter how seemingly small, signifies a powerful embrace of personal growth.

Patience is your ally throughout this transformation. As the saying goes, Rome wasn’t built in a day, and the same applies to the process of changing your self-relationship. Self-compassion and self-love are cultivated over time, and each moment dedicated to this journey is a testament to your strength and resilience.

“Over It October” is an invitation to break free from the toxic bonds we form with ourselves. Let it be a time of self-discovery, self-compassion, and self-love, as you embark on a transformative journey toward a healthier and more nurturing self-relationship.

Love, Sunshyne